Thanks so much to all of you who have followed Mom's story. Since my last post, so much has happened. We had incredible nursing care. We had great family time. And our mother had a beautiful send-off. She was surrounded by her husband, all four of her children, four of her five grandchildren, one of her sisters, and her lead nurse from hospice. Through it all she was aware and very much herself. We were able to tell her we loved her, we would miss her, and that we would take care of each other the way she took care of us.
On the quote wall, she had written: "Our greatest glory consists not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall" (Oliver Goldsmith). My sister found a small quote book of Mom's (given to her by one of her students) in which she had circled and starred some of her favorites. Next to this Goldsmith quote she had written: "Of course." Of course.
I knew I would be sad. But I did not expect the joy to be mingled in as well. Her passing felt very much like a rising. I now feel the full force of her presence more than ever, though I suspect the hardest part is yet to come. My favorite part of the day is the moment I wake up, before I realize that this is real.
Thanks to all of you who sent kind words, kind thoughts, or offered your presence in some way at this past week's services. It was a comfort to the whole family and to her friends. Several people have asked me for a copy of the eulogy. Here it is (with more quotes from the wall!):
It is hard to be alive. For a lot of people it’s hard to wake up and the morning and lug their bodies out of bed, for some it’s hard to face what they see in the mirror, and for most of us it’s hard to find the daily courage and concentration to live the life that we want to every day. So many people have lived and died in this world that it’s hard to imagine that anything any of us do has meaning. It seems like with all the people that have lived and breathed that someone would have already figured out what there is to be figured out already. But, as I have been reminded in many ways throughout my life, you don’t know everything. But it’s nice to think each of us, by the end of our lives, can figure something out. And we can take what we have learned and pass it on to those who are just beginning their lives, to make it a little easier for them and for the world.

So today I ask you, to take a break from the worry and demand of your life, and think about what a beautiful thing it is to be alive. What a beautiful thing it is we are all here together. And let us all take a moment to listen to handwritten pieces of advice that Rosie Kelly took time out of her life to stop and write down so she could be reminded —every day.
Much love,